I deal with lot of consumers for all kinds of individual concerns like self self-confidence, public speaking, weight management, smoking etc. Many occasions consumers mention the torment developed by their inner voice, the voice inside their thoughts which is consciously expressing their thoughts. Some people refer to it as an inner critic. Sometimes they don’t notice it and at times they want it would shut up and give them some peace. It is sad that often it is saying good things about them and they tune this out. More usually than not, when this voice inside their head is stuck in a tape loop criticising, judging and recriminating them for some action or omission, they are listening to it intently and the more they listen to it, the a lot more ammunition it fires at them, generating much more and far more damaging thoughts which may possibly transform into feelings of anxiousness, be concerned, dejection or depression. What a excellent state to be in? All generated by the voice inside their head, robbing them of peace of thoughts, self self-assurance, generating life a struggle, a torment.
And but there is hope. It is attainable to change state, so very easily and properly. I supply you some options.
Firstly take one hundred% responsibility for the thoughts expressed by that inner voice as they take place appropriate now. Taking duty is not the very same as blaming oneself or even blaming other people. Responsibility allows you to take back handle more than the way you feel and realise that you are ultimately responsibly for the nature of the thoughts you consider. When you take responsibility you are also in the handle seat. You can make a decision how lengthy far more you want to endure, for example do you want to suffer this inner torment for a few far more minutes, a couple of far more hours, a week, a year and so forth.? Again what is the objective of tormenting oneself for a single minute more?
Realise that these thoughts are not details and you are not your thoughts. Thoughts are attempts at describing what ever scenario you are involved in at this moment and can never accurately describe what is in fact going. As they say in NLP the map is not the territory or the menu is not the meal.
Deciding to be proactive by taking duty for what you are considering brings awareness to the present moment and as you become conscious of these thoughts inside your head, just note those thoughts which are also creating emotions. Imagine you are just writing down the name of the believed or emotion in a notebook. Maybe the inner voice is angry and rehashing a story to do with that anger. Just note it, i.e., in this case ‘anger’. As you breathe slowly and gently in and out, just note that word ‘anger’ repeatedly and at the very same time drop the story line. Don’t get involved in the ins and outs of the story. As you continue to breathe let oneself to release those thoughts or emotions and the story and just let them go. Where your feelings are good or content, it is no harm to practice ‘noting’ these also and release on these feelings. Accepting the thought or feeling which exists in that moment in time, then releasing it and letting it go, takes the power out of the unfavorable pondering.
You can bring awareness to the nature of the voice inside your head, it’s pitch, its tone. Does it sound loud? Is it angry? Is it sad? Is it coming from the correct of your head or the left or straight ahead. Does the voice reverberate through your physique? Is it your own voice or the voice of someone you know? Again take back your power and use your imagination to change that voice inside your head. Why not turn the volume down to zero or make it sound like a funny voice? Making it sound squeaky or stupid diminishes its impact. Why not replace the voice with your favourite uplifting song or affirmation like ‘Everyday in every single way I am better and much better.’
Awareness of the present moment can also extend to bodily sensations and you can notice sensations such as becoming hot or cold, how you are sitting or standing and so on. You could do a extremely rapid scan of your body from head to toe, noticing what ever sensations are there. Again just note these sensations, release them and let them go.
Taking duty for the way your believe is such an empowering point to do as you look at all situations as understanding possibilities and you can determine to quieten your mind totally and take advantage of the organic relaxation that brings or you can choose to replace the annoying thoughts with thoughts which help and nurture you. Instead of listening to the inner voice criticising you for how you performed in a specific scenario why not use the voice to recognize the studying possibilities arising from that scenario and then programme yourself with a good results statement, i.e., how you want to believe, really feel and act in a certain circumstance.
I advise my consumers to practise these mind quieting methods at instances when they are not so stressed or agitated, even at instances when they are relaxed. Practice tends to make excellent, so that when you are in a highly stressful scenario you are prepared to face it.